We have an agreement about “Special” days
My honey and I have an agreement about “Special” days. We really don’t make a big deal about them. I am not into giving or receiving cards. Yes they are lovely to get and read, but then what? Do we store them for years or throw them out? It is of course different when you get hand-made cards from your kids, but otherwise I consider it a waste of money.
Store bought cards, yes they are still romantic. Someone else figured out what to say in words. Thank Goodness! there are writers who write beautiful poems. For years I would have been heart-broken if I didn’t get a Valentine’s Card on Valentine’s Day, especially since that is the day we were engaged back in 1992.
Somewhere along the way, spoken words were more important than written words and we came to an agreement that we didn’t need to do the card exchange. I’m pretty sure this came at a time, money was not flowing in from my work. I become a bit of a cheap-scape I guess when I’m worried about money. Even after work picked up, it comes and goes… we stuck to the idea of not celebrating these special days by going out and buying stuff we didn’t need.
This morning I woke up and there by the tea kettle was a hand-written card from my honey. That is a great way to start off the day. I wish I could find the photo of the year he went out in the front yard and made a huge, huge heart in the snow on the lawn. He came back in and told me to look out the window. My heart melted a lot faster than the snow did! I took a photo, but that was years ago and I have no idea where it is now. I don’t even know whether it was a digital camera or printed photo. Darn it. I hope some day I find it. Now that, is Romance!
He Does Other Special Things Every Day
I think I have posted before about some of the things he does for me day in and day. I think I also mentioned that I wrote a song for him. It is a goofy song, with a goofy, very bad quality animated video. Perhaps I will share this on our Anniversary in June. I won’t make promises though.
New Laminate Flooring!
This past Saturday, just out of the blue said, “I think I’ll put the new laminate down in that room downstairs, now that you’ve sold the beds.” To me, that is exciting. Renovating, remodelling, I love it. We have done three other bedrooms in the house already so this was the last one that needed to be done. We had no plans to do it on this particular day, but there he was laying the laminate on his day off. I helped do the floors in the other rooms but this time I left him to do it on his own. I am excited and motivated now to paint the walls as well. I have now purchased the paint and will get at it in the next couple of days. Normally if you are putting new flooring down AND painting you would do the painting first. This was an after thought. We didn’t plan to do any of this, so I wasn’t going to stop him after he decided he was motivated to do the floor.
The Romantic Type
For those who are the romantic type, I hope you have a wonderful day and it is full of the romance you love. Brian will most likely stop at the grocery store and buy something to cook for dinner and put something in a heart shape. He is a smart man and worries if he doesn’t do something, I will feel bad. I try to reassure him that I don’t want anything, but he has his doubts as most men would. He always manages to find a little treat to bring home, but this year I am watching calories. He won’t be able to bring home chocolate. I’ll keep you posted as to whether he does anything. I won’t be disappointed if he doesn’t, although I would be surprised.
If you are not the romantic type, as humans, we can show our love in many ways, without spending money. Whether you are married, single, or without a partner…
Remember to love yourself for being you. Not just on Valentine’s Day. Feel the love everyday. This reminds me…I better call my mom, she is alone, she can use the love.
Do you have a parent who is alone that could use a phone call? Do you reach out and love some one on this special day?