Will Marriages Ever Become Extinct?
Everything we do these days requires a permit. Special parking privileges, building, electrical, business license. The paperwork never stops and we have no choice in the matter. It makes me wonder if marriages will ever become extinct because people do not want to do the paperwork, apply for a permit. I know, I know, hear me out.
If we want to build a house, park somewhere special or have special privileges, we either apply for a permit or we can’t do it. It’s as simple as that! However, when we consider marriage, we have a choice as to whether we want to get married or not. It does not affect the way we live or where we live. If we want to get married, we apply for a license, which is really the same as a permit. So if we decide we don’t want to apply for a license, we don’t have to. We can’t get married but we can still live together, we can still live the same as if we were married. So if given the choice, say ten years down the road, will couples pass on the whole wedding thing?
When my first husband and I were looking for an apartment and weren’t married yet, we got turned down, because we weren’t married. Common-law for some was still taboo. We did finally get accepted in to an apartment building and we did finally get married. These days though, no one asks if your married or not. I don’t know if it is asked on applications or not because well, I have been married for a long time, not to the first husband, but to my second husband. Today, not being married will not get you turned down for an apartment, but the money saved can pay for a down payment on a house.
After saying all that you might be thinking I am against big weddings. I am not. I would love to be able to plan a large wedding, choosing colors, decorations, seating arrangements, floral arrangements, photographers. Oh my gosh! that would be such a blast, but not on my dime, unless I was rich. Then maybe I would even consider renewing our wedding vows with a big wedding. Ooooh, that sounds exciting! I am not a professional wedding planner but the thought does excite me. I love photography but I would never book myself as a professional photographer for a wedding. It is way too special of a day, leave that to the experienced wedding photographers. Wedding photographs don’t get a re-take!
Would I ever Re-marry?
Would I ever get remarried again, if something were to happen to my current one? I really don’t think so. If I was young and never married, would I go for a big wedding? I think I would if the money was there, IF there was still money for a down payment on a home.
So, I guess, if I win the lottery, (which is near impossible because I don’t often buy tickets,) I might “make” my husband marry me again and have a huge celebration. Since I dabble in costume photography and have royal clothing, I might even do a Grand Ball theme or Disney theme. Wouldn’t that be fun? The Bride, Groom and attendants can dress as royalty and the guests can come as any Disney character they want to, even if it is a pirate.
So, What Do You Think?
Okay, so I got off the topic of permits, but it is kind of related. So what do you think? Do you think the big weddings are here to stay? Do you think weddings will be around in the future, say ten years down the road or more?
Love and weddings are so exciting. I hope they are here to stay, whether it is small or extravagant really doesn’t matter. Hmm, it must be February. Love is in the air.
Don’t forget to love yourself for being you.